Back in the fall, my stepmother, Jill, asked me if I wanted to share my story for a luncheon she was planning, to raise money for anti-bullying initiatives. Before she asked me to speak, I knew I wanted to be involved in some way. This is a cause I feel very passionate about, not (just) because I was bullied, but because I believe no one deserves this treatment. There needs to be more compassion, kindness and love in this world, and I'd be honored to contribute to such a worthy cause. Even though I knew it would be taped and could end up on television (and had some mixed feelings about this), I said yes. If putting myself out there, even if it's a little scary and I don't know what the results could/will be, can help others, then that's what I want to do.
Which brings us to this week. Last night, a part of my speech was on at the end of the latest episode of "The Real Housewives of NYC." As often happens on reality shows, much of my speech wasn't included on the show that aired, but I am grateful it was included at all. I've heard from many people who could connect with the speech in some way, which has been an amazing experience and extremely humbling. Many of you have shared your own stories with me. Thank you!
I started a facebook page, also called "The Birthmark Project" two years ago, to encourage self-acceptance and compassion for self and others, and to celebrate and embrace what makes us different. In the end, many of us, if not everyone, has a "birthmark," -something that made or makes us self-conscious, and possibly the target of bullies. I have an actual large facial birthmark and hemangioma, but I use the word "birthmark" as metaphor as well. I've learned that what once made us the target of bullies or insecure (or both) also has a lot to teach us about life.
I'd love to hear about your experiences here. What have you learned? What do you hope to pass on to younger generations?
Although I started this blog a little while ago, I hadn't written recently. I wasn't sure if people would really be interested in what I had to say. The response from last night has encouraged me to start writing here again.
Thank you to all of those who "liked" The Birthmark Project page, and for your incredibly supportive and kind words. As I wrote on the page earlier, I hope you can all extend these kind words to yourself.
Finally, many of you have heard of this project, but for those who haven't--please google "It gets better." It's an inspiring project that grew out of response to the suicides of young people, after they were bullied.
Please share your thoughts and comments. I look forward to hearing from you. Let's stand up against bullying, and call for compassion and kindness.
Thanks for taking time out of your day to read this.
-Jennifer
